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Abby's Story

I started thinking “is it me”Could it be this or could it be the way I said something, had he found someone else and honestly at one point I actually thought I was going mad, but I wasn’t.

Thankyou Thankyou Thankyou
The day I’ve been dreaming of is actually here and I just can’t believe me and my little girl have our very own home. At last and that’s because of you.
If it wasn’t for this charity we wouldn’t have been moving in this year not a chance and truly you have made all our dreams come true.
You have gone above and beyond and just given us all the things we needed for our home and this fresh start is literally the best feeling ever. You even thought to bring us a Christmas tree with all the trimmings and lights and without a doubt it’s made this day extra special because now we can put our tree up and enjoy our Christmas together and it’s just the two of us without any violence.

The thing that’s really blown me away is the level of kindness that you don’t see every day and you didn’t only bring presents for my daughter but you also got me gifts too, genuinely I can’t describe how much this means to both of us.
It’s been tough and it was hard to run because my husband made me depend on him but not a day was going by that my daughter wasn’t listening to his abuse or seeing the violence and I couldn’t let her be around this anymore. I was scared to death of her becoming a woman and thinking abuse is normal or it’s ok to be treated like this.
I want to say to people please be extra careful when you get into a relationship because the signs was there for me from the get go. He was the perfect gentleman, polite and very charming and then it started. Silent treatment for no reason and making me feel guilty for things that I wasn’t even aware of. No matter what I said I was an idiot, no matter what I did it was wrong or not good enough. The atmosphere was so depressing and how he ignored me was like I had done something really really bad but he refused to answer me, talk to me look at me or anything. I started thinking “is it me”Could it be this or could it be the way I said something, had he found someone else and honestly at one point I actually thought I was going mad, but I wasn’t. This was just the start of what turned into a very violent marriage, and i thought it would get better. Please anyone reading this that sees the same things with their partner, just get out while you can because please believe me it doesn’t get any better at all. It gets so much worse.

Thankyou so much again to this amazing charity for doing all what you unbelievable people have done and wishing you all a lovely Christmas and keep safe.
Abby (Survivor)

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